I once
heard a lady ask me a question ,
she asked “Do you masturbate ?”. I was
taken back by the question . Upon careful consideration , however , I saw how
the question bothered on a problem usually faced by most men. It is true that a
great number of men have masturbated at one time or the other in their lives .
It is a common problem with very few solutions.
Someone once told me “I find it very difficult staying without a
woman , and when I stay without a woman , I find it difficult staying without
masturbating myself to sleep”. He sounded so pathetic and I could feel his
confusion. Sadly , he is not the only
one in this position. Another fellow told me “Sir , I have been involved in
this habit of masturbation since I was a teen and now I have not had the
courage to tell anyone because I feel ashamed and non of my friends would
consider me a gut if they find out what I do”. A lot more others suffer from
this problem but do not know how to deal with it. Indeed , it is a problem that
thrives in the secret.
Other problems usually suffered by most men are :
addiction to pornography , too much indulgence in sex , drinking , smoking and
gambling . These vices are usually done in the open and do not enjoy the power of secrecy . Masturbation is not spoken
of in public . It is usually pleasured and enjoyed as a secret habit. Every
habit done in secret has stronger grip
on those who practice it. It is easy and common to see young men in groups
speak of their sexual exploits but young men do not speak of how good they
masturbate themselves. This makes the habit difficult to deal with and hard to
diagnose ! This secrecy is the most unhealthy reason this habit linger too long in the lives of those
who practice it .
You want to get rid of masturbation. If you have
to deal with the pressing passion , you have to deal with the issue of keeping
the habit a secret. Once you summon enough courage to expose the habit , you
would have overcome the first obstacle to solving the nagging emotional problem
. This is the first step!
