Tuesday 11 October 2011

MASTURBATION THRIVES IN SECRESY


I once  heard a lady ask  me a question , she asked “Do you  masturbate ?”. I was taken back by the question . Upon careful consideration , however , I saw how the question bothered on a problem usually faced by most men. It is true that a great number of men have masturbated at one time or the other in their lives . It is a common problem with very few solutions.
Someone once told me  “I find it very difficult staying without a woman , and when I stay without a woman , I find it difficult staying without masturbating myself to sleep”. He sounded so pathetic and I could feel his confusion. Sadly , he is not  the only one in this position. Another fellow told me “Sir , I have been involved in this habit of masturbation since I was a teen and now I have not had the courage to tell anyone because I feel ashamed and non of my friends would consider me a gut if they find out what I do”. A lot more others suffer from this problem but do not know how to deal with it. Indeed , it is a problem that thrives in the secret.
Other problems usually suffered by most men are : addiction to pornography , too much indulgence in sex , drinking , smoking and gambling . These vices are usually done in the open and do not enjoy the  power of secrecy . Masturbation is not spoken of in public . It is usually pleasured and enjoyed as a secret habit. Every habit done in secret  has stronger grip on those who practice it. It is easy and common to see young men in groups speak of their sexual exploits but young men do not speak of how good they masturbate themselves. This makes the habit difficult to deal with and hard to diagnose ! This secrecy is the most unhealthy reason this  habit linger too long in the lives of those who practice it .
You want to get rid of masturbation. If you have to deal with the pressing passion , you have to deal with the issue of keeping the habit a secret. Once you summon enough courage to expose the habit , you would have overcome the first obstacle to solving the nagging emotional problem . This is the first step!    

Thursday 22 September 2011

what is masturbation ?

Have you ever been in the habit of fondling your genitals or sex organs ? Have you found yourself touching some sensitive parts of your body in order to gain sexual stimulation ? Well , if you have been doing this , then you have been involved in the common but ignoble act called - MASTURBATION. |
Do you have an idea how you developed this habit ? It takes a lot of time to develop a habit  and once it is developed , it takes a lot of time to develop a habit and once it is developed , it takes a great deal of effort to deal with it. Some people have been hooked to the habit fr as long as 15 years and above. It does not do any one good to be hooked to a habit or lifestyle that does not make one proud and happy.
Some people have developed low self esteem  and spit personalities in the developing stages of this habit.It is usually believed that more men are used to this habit but studies have showed that even women masturbate . Female masturbation or women masturbation is not as common as that obtainable with men.
Timothy , a young man in his teens says " It all started like a joke , once i felt like having release and it felt good . The first time , i went into the bathroom and began to rob my sex organ with the soap ladder . It felt 'like the real thing' and before i could get back to myself , i was beginning to get hooked and ever since , i have been trying different sections in order to get release"
If you have found yourself in this category , then all you do not need to despair . This blog is for you . So please read on................